People are to you however you are making them out to be. They are expressions of energy which you interpret according to your personal ideas (self image).
So, instead of asking why someone acts the way they do, try this inquiry instead: how does seeing a person in this light build upon my self image?
This inquiry creates an opening in your thought structure so that you may see beyond the cloud of delusion, and discover what’s been keeping you from being the love that you are.
As you make such discoveries, rejoice! And remember that it’s okay to release whatever ideas of self are no longer necessary. As your personal ideas drop away, the beauty within all people becomes more apparent – which manifests as more harmony in your personal relations.