Freedom of Attention & the Infinite now
Hope: It’s nice just to see the consequences of what your attention is on.
Tigmonk: That is true.
Hope: It is all there is to do, you will see it……..
Tigmonk: yeah that is true.
Hope: You just see the consequences. And it’s like the only action you are making in the moment is putting your action on something. The other action is automatic (Laughter)……
Tigmonk: Yeah, I guess you can say that’s the only thing going on in each moment your attention is somewhere…
Hope: Your attention…yeah….(laughter)
Tigmonk: Yeah…and, and you’re free to put your attention anywhere.
(Hope: (Amid laughter)Yeah, that’s the complete freedom.
Tigmonk: And we feel bound to put our attention on drama, but really you are not bound.
Hope: Yeah, and just having ideas of self. Destroyed….fear of having those ideas of…..
Hope: …..self destroyed that’s what makes us wanna entertain the drama. We wanna work it out. You know in our mind make sure we are right….(Laughter)
Tigmonk: Wow, yeah…..ok, just to make sure…(laughter)….I need to check out of here for a second…
Tigmonk:….make sure am still right… yeah….(laughter)….Coz I had an argument three weeks ago and I kind of forgot my position…..Yeah….(laughter) I need to gather my thoughts before I go home.
Hope: (laughter)…That’s why I’m here…..(laughter)….
Tigmonk: Make sure I can still win that argument. Wow…
Hope: Yeah…it at least will be one of your own in your mind, otherwise you know…..
Tigmonk: You see, that’s like a mind looking for permission to come down……
Tigmonk: Yeah, It’s like you can’t calm down until you figure this out.
Hope: Yeah exactly!
Hope: And then you know…….you as attention are always there to give permission and then, that’s love (laughter)
Hope: It just gives the mind permission to rest….it’s okay….I remember the first time I did that, it was like I was going to start some yoga and some kind of drama on facebook or something like that. I go like ok…I’m starting a yoga practice and I felt this permission to rest because, whatever the mind was holding was so intense to the mind.
Hope: It was imagining destruction to the ego. And so, when permission was given for the mind to rest, that was an amazing feeling….it was like wow…what a relief I can just be here doing yoga right now.
Tigmonk: You know and that’s the thing……again, life is going on when you are doing something like yoga…
Tigmonk: and the whole problem of life, (Hope: Aha) is taking place in the mind about some other moment, that’s not a real moment.
Tigmonk: And that like sums it up
Tigmonk: But put me back in this position of now…(Hope: Aha )..ok, so there is to know that, what is the reality of now…is that I just don’t know anything.
Hope: Yeah…. (laughter) that’s perfect..
Tigmonk: Yeah…and that’s the sense I get…(Hope: Yeah)..and that’s the funny part…(Hope: Yeah) because again, it seems like you can ask any question and then truth will address it.
Tigmonk: But yet to see it in the reality as just the space of whatever I am, to be here with the ocean is like there is still nothing to know.(Hope: Laughs..) I still don’t know anything.
Hope: Yeah…..its perfect, the world is not for knowing, who is arguing with God. The world is not for being known……it’s for being seen…(Tigmonk: And enjoyed)…enjoyed….
Respect. It’s what parents think they want from their kids.
So, one might ask, “how do I get respect from my kids without demanding it”? But even that is nothing more than an attempt to gain a survival skill in a world built upon made-up constructs. You are so much more powerful than that!
In a sense, it’s true that what you “give” you are always going to “get” back, but to the confused mind takes this to mean You give love, you get love - You give money, you get a product - You give labor, you get a paycheck.
In reality everything is arising from out of the collective consciousness. In this way, you are really only “giving” a vibrational frequency that matches your mental state, and you are really only “getting” the mathematical equivalent of every mental state that has already been broadcast from your point of view.
Notice that in expecting a child to show respect, the adult is already coming from a point of view that’s lacking respect, and within this blind expectation there’s not even a question as to why respect appears to be missing in the first place.
Because this expectation largely goes unquestioned, children are being used to act out the “adult” idea of respect,while the feeling of disrespect grows in intensity for everyone involved. Until there’s a demand for recognition of what’s really going on, this unconscious charade will continue to make discomfort and suffering for the human experience.
So, if disrespect or fear of disrespect is showing up in your experience, remember that it has nothing to do with another person. Of course, the mind will say that you need to get respect or you could be ruined, but what the mind isn’t seeing is that the outer world is only a reflection of what’s inside, and that it’s way easier to let the projection lighten up than to wrestle with the reflection.
Who are you to feel disrespected? Question every thought about respect and what that means to who you think you are. If you’re willing to experience whatever is arising, you will be made aware of what believing unreality feels like. And once that happens, the idea of needing respect will be irrelevant for you.
As soon as a child is able to exercise natural free will, they are trained by parents, family members, teachers and even random people to “show” respect--to whomever. On the surface that seems innocent, even just, however peeling away the layers of “respect” will reveal its service to the dis-ease of humanity.
Specifically, children are trained to automatically respect their parents, respect their elders, respect their teachers, and even respect their toys. The truth behind this automatic respect building is that it is self-serving.
The common adult mind thinks it needs to teach children how to act respectful, and so it teaches children how to display the kind of behavior that makes an adult feel respected. But this has nothing to do with being respectful.
True respectfulness is the automatic expression emanated from a person who holds no disrespect; it’s not an act that’s turned on to please other people. Since most adult minds hold disrespect for their self, children are often used to cover that up with an act of respect for the adults.
These children are in turn being taught to be adults that pretend to need respect from other people, and this insanity goes on because people are largely unwilling to recognize the ways in which they follow thought that disrespects their own self.
They are not willing to see that children, other people and even the self are not capable of reflecting any behavior that’s not projected by their own state of mind. This unwillingness is secured by fear of death, which is what can happen to a separate person in a world where that person is not respected.
But such a person does not exist except in thought. You are not that person, or any person for that matter. You are the one who decides whether to give attention to thoughts that disrespect your self or not. So, you’re invited let the keiki (kids) be as they are and look at what’s really going on.
Disciplined behavior is an example of the mind trying to do God's job.
It can only make the kind of results that come out of self importance - which inevitably require greater and greater effort and control to uphold.
But learning and growth happen effortlessly when it's seen that behavior is an indivisible aspect of the lesson that's arising now.
In that space of allowing, behavior is experienced without argument, and the individual being blossoms. Let it be!
Present Day! - a web based Talk Show
Pretty much just Tigmonk & Hope Johnson bullshitting about how awesome Life is, while laughing about the simplicity of Truth, Love, & Joy.
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Topic: Discovering the Joy that comes within Heartbreak
3:00m Trying to avoid Heartbreak is asking for Heartbreak
4:45m Heartbreak is Leading Toward Joy
6:00m Relationship with our Children
7:00m Heartbreak is the falling away of an illusion
9:00m Taking Your Story into the next moment leads to Heartbreak
11:00m If you wanna fuck, fuck.
12:00m You can't save Bliss
13:00m It's all Temporary
14:00m Cheating in Relationships
16:00m Fundamental Non-Caring
18:00m No effort to protect your insecurity
19:20 Letting Go of Your House
22:00m Puna Bush
22:10m Environmental Heartbreak
23:30m Participating, not Resisting
24:30m There is no running away from Problems
You've got to be willing to understand that there are no problems before you can help to heal and beautify the world. Basically, the moment you put ANY belief in perceived problems, more problems are being made up.
That's just how the mind works. All ifs, ands or buts about it are just foolish excuses to believe in problems.
Keep your attention rooted from the one who's before problems, and there is truly no problem at all.