The idea that passion between people should continue for any longer than it does creates the illusion that something has gone wrong - and thus makes us suffer.
Whether one partner in the passionate exchange dies, the partnership collapses, or it becomes dispassionate - it is Right in that it paves the way for us to rekindle the flame of our inner passion in a state of greater awareness.
As we let go of wanting things to be different than they are right now, we can re-experience the feeling of passionate love within ourselves. And whatever feelings dominate our experience are made manifest in the physical form.
This is not to say that feeling of loss is not valid. Indeed, we must go through feelings of loss if we are move deeper into our passion.
But to recognize that none of the ideas that arise with the feeling of loss are actually the truth allows us to move into a renewed passion for what was, what is, and what can be.
Self discipline, in the common sense is a device for empowering the ego. But properly directed self discipline can deconstruct the self and lead to ultimate freedom.
What's mostly thought of as self discipline is making the self do something we think we outta do, or not do something we thing we shouldn't do. These are delusional attitudes that give mental conditioning more control over our lives.
The ability to self discipline is an important key to Freedom through realizing the Truth of who we are, but self discipline is only valuable when its wielded in service to Spirit/God/The One.
Specifically, having the will and the intent, while emotionally triggered, to witness all forms of thought without following them, to remain present to the breath, and to feel unconditionally what's coming up is the ONLY form of self discipline that affects the cause of internal and external dis-ease.
This ability is developed through practicing stillness of mind - which means consistently taking time out of the busy lives we have created to do nothing 'productive' but watch our thoughts.
All of our behavior changes organically, in exactly the way it 'should', in response to awareness of Truth which comes through stillness - while every trip of disciplining the self to be a certain way is in and of itself resistance to the Truth we seek.
As our evolution becomes less hindered by habitual thought, we receive visions of ourselves and our world in a higher form.
As these visions occur its just natural for programmed thought to come in with all the 'reasons' that our visions would be difficult or impossible to manifest, or about 'how' we're going to make them manifest.
As we feel into these fears with conscious breath, our visions become more powerful. This is not the same as trying to use more thought to convince ourselves that our fears are invalid.
Fear is valid and its diffused by our going through it experientially, not by thinking our way around it.
As our fears are diffused, we can Trust the grand design of the Universe, which renders us free to step Joyfully and consistently in the direction of our visions with full expectation that our visions will come true - but without attachment to any of the details.
To extract Wisdom from any form of Pain or Discomfort, we must be willing to penetrate through the drama created by thought, and bear witness to whatever feeling sensations are present.
Focusing awareness on the breath, no matter what's happening, allows us to direct the mind toward that which is truly relevant.
We have no control over our thoughts. We're programmed to think as we do.
But we choose whether to empower thoughts by taking them as truth, or disempower thoughts by recognizing them as programming.
Every time we recognize thoughts as Programming, we are re-programmed toward neutral thoughts - which neutralizes the drama in our lives and for our collective world.
To recognize thoughts as Programming, we simply turn our attention to the underlying feeling and breathe with conscious awareness.
Children raised in loving acceptance for all of their behavior become grown ups who don't need to steal, harm, etc...because they feel complete within themselves.
This is quite a bit different than refraining from criminal activity because of boundaries imposed by other people, and fear of punishment.
Our Destiny is Now. Not in some future moment. We are abundantly provided with all of the resources we require to live our Destiny in the present moment.
The more we utilize whatever resources we have been given to share and expand present moment awareness, the more resources we are gracefully given as required to support this purpose.
When we are able to unconditionally forgive our attackers, there will be no more attacks.
For every attacker comes from within. The external attack is only a reflection of lack of forgiveness aka fear.
This isn't about trying to control what's going to happen - that only leads to more suffering.
We all hold memories of being attacked in different forms, whether physically, verbally, financially, etc. With those memories we automatically attach judgment that something went wrong, fear that it will happen again, and a need to keep it from happening again.
This way of being projects an energetic charge from aura that powerfully attracts more of what we are not wanting for ourselves and for the world - no matter what measures we take in the physical. Thus, the key to creating a more loving environment is in diffusing the energetic charge within our own field of awareness - ie: forgiveness.
How to forgive? Feel into the energetic charge that arises in our bodies when we think about the attacker, focus on breathing without pausing, and let the corresponding thoughts rise and fall on their own.