You don't have anything. Even desires, opinions, tendencies and preferences are appearing in front of you.
They aren't personal because there is no person. There's just a collection of thoughts about a personal self that does not exist beyond such thoughts.
It's your obedience to thoughts like 'I have this preference' or 'I don't have that tendency' that keeps you identified as a personality that can suffer while the totality that you are remains unrealized.
Give it all up, and the apparent power of this world can have no sway over you.
The only true Choice is whether to let awareness get swept away on the winds of thought, or to abide in the infinite and unchanging Truth right now.
Worldly choices are being made automatically through mental conditioning. Just let those choices be what they are, so that you are not distracted from the opportunity at hand.
Forgiveness is something you can allow within your awareness. It has nothing to do with other people, their behavior or whether they seek your forgiveness.
Simply be Willing to let your ideas about the person, people and/or situation arise and subside without adding energy to them. Forgiveness happens automatically, as people and situations arrange themselves to reflect the same.