Loving Children
Children raised in loving acceptance for all of their behavior become grown ups who don't need to steal, harm, etc...because they feel complete within themselves.
This is quite a bit different than refraining from criminal activity because of boundaries imposed by other people, and fear of punishment.
Discipline
When we make other people follow our rules for living, we create suffering for everyone. NoBody, not children, employees, countries, the self etc. deserve to have discipline imposed upon them.
Commitment to live the virtues of Love is born out of experimentation, stillness and self reflection.
But when people are forced to conform to the disciplinarian's code of conduct (even when done out of love), the energy that would have expressed otherwise breeds quiet desperation, resentment and dis-ease.
People simply can't be kept in check forever. Eventually their inner pain will materialize in the world of form.
This plays out as abuse of all kinds, terrorism, war, accidents, illness and suicide.
The most difficult thing for the conditioned mind is to just let people (self and others) be as they are, and attend to any emotional discomfort that arises around our perception of the offending behavior. This is especially true when it comes to our children, whom we think we are supposed to mold into decent people.
But know that this is a necessary thing if we intend our individual and collective experience to be moved toward Peaceful Freedom. We are fully supported whether we choose Control or Freedom - and whatever we choose will be exponentially reflected back to us.
Familial Obligations
All obligations are made up, including Familial Obligations.
To the extent you feel obligated to make your family members happy with you, your own experience of enjoyment is being resisted. Likewise, to the extent you expect your family members to make you happy, your own experience of enjoyment is being resisted.
Allowing Freedom for You and all others, as individual creators of their own experience, opens new energetic channels whereby you can experience more enjoyment than ever thought possible. Sometimes this means setting boundaries between your individual self and family members who insist that you are responsible for their dis-ease.
You are worthy of more Joy than you can presently imagine. By recognizing your obligations as FALSE, you give your self permission to go there.
Happy New World!!
The Child has Come
Parents Frustrated with Wiggly Kids
Here's a response I wrote in response to a reporter's questions at SheKnow.com.
What do you know about a parent's frustration with wiggly kids? Parents who are frustrated with wiggly kids hold a belief that kids should not wiggle - it's the same belief they were conditioned with as children - and now they think they need to control their own kids in order to make them behave the 'right' way.
Why are they often frustrated with their inability to sit still especially when doing homework or another task that requires concentration? Forcing children to sit still and concentrate sets them up for a lifetime of doing things that they are not passionate about. Specifically, the body of a child is made to move...a lot, but many times the conventional education system and conditioned parent decide against what's natural and healthy for the child. This in turn teaches the child to ignore his/her innate guidance system, and go along with the crowd instead. This is the beginning of mental and physical dis-ease.
Why do some kids need to wiggle/move constantly? Some children need to wiggle and move constantly because that's what they are doing. It's up to the parent to communicate with their child and to facilitate activities that make joyful use of that energy. When children do not want to sit still and do homework or anything else, that's because they do not need to be doing them.
Can an argument be made that it helps them focus? Yes. It helps them to focus when kids are allowed to move according to their instinct. It helps them to focus on the only thing that has enduring value - Life as experienced through nature of their soul - instead of through a set of conditioned beliefs about how they should act.
What is the typical result of a parent telling their child to stop wiggling? The typical result of a parent telling a child to stop wiggling is frustration - a sure sign that one is moving in opposition to the truth.
How would you suggest the parent approaches this situation? Let them wiggle as much as they want. When the child is done wiggling they will stop, and if the child becomes interested in the information the parent is trying to present, it will be made obvious.
Something that can help a parent face their own frustration while allowing the child to be who they are is Pure Essential Oil of Rose. Rose essential oil opens the heart and encourages a person to operate from a place of love and wholeness while exposing the untruth of rigid conditioning about how kids 'should' act.
Essential Oil for Children
Babies and children have an especially sensitive sense of smell. Therapeutic essential oils are very potent and should not be administered around children's face/nose. It takes only six weeks for babies to recognize their mother's scent and distinguish between their mother's and someone else's undershirt. Fragrance may be the first secret love bond of life, connecting mother and child in a wonderful way.
Essential Oils for Infants and Toddlers
Essential Oil Drops: Per age, per 25 ml carrier oil. The following drops of essential oils may be added to 25 ml carrier oil:
| Child's Age | Application |
| Babies 0-3 months: | No essential oils - carrier oils only. Almond and olive oil are most suitable |
| Babies 3 - 6 months | 1 drop |
| Babies 6-12 months: | 1 drop |
| Toddlers age 1-2 years | 1-2 drops |
Essential oils Suitable for BABIES
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0-3 months - Carrier oils only - Almond or Olive oil
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3-6 months: Bergamot, Grapefruit, Lemon, Mandarin, Neroli, Petitgrain and Tangerine.
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6-12 months: Bergamot, Grapefruit, Lemon, Mandarin, Neroli, Petitgrain, Tangerine, Benzoin, Chamomile Roman, Eucalyptus, Lavender, Tea Tree and Niaouli.
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After 12 months: Bergamot, Grapefruit, Lemon, Mandarin, Neroli, Sweet Orange, Petitgrain, Tangerine, Benzoin, Chamomile Roman, Eucalyptus, Lavender, Tea Tree, Niaouli, Camphor, Clove, Frankincense, Lemon Verbena, Palmarosa, Patchouli, Sandalwood, vetiver, Ylang ylang
There are many synthetic oils on the market. Do not use synthetic oils on babies, children or any other person.
Essential Oils UNSUITABLE for Babies
The following essential oils must not be used on babies or children: German Chamomile, cedarwood, cinnamon, clary sage, aniseed, arnica, basil, black pepper, cajeput, cypress, fennel, geranium, ginger, hyssop, jasmine, juniper, marjoram, melissa, myrrh, nutmeg, peppermint, pine, rose, rosemary, sage, thyme.
The value of aromatherapy essential and carrier oils, combined with massage, is enormous. If the correct oils are used in their correct dosage, the benefits are endless as there are no side effects, only advantages. Children respond very well to aromatherapy and enjoy the sweet fragrances as much as adults do.
If children are hyperactive after attending a birthday party and having loaded themselves with sugar, lavender and other balancing oils which have a calming effect can soothe them Coughs, colds and runny noses can quickly be treated with the essential oils to prevent further spread of respiratory infections. Eczema, asthma, abdominal cramps and other conditions respond well to the essential oils.
The following calculations may be used as a guideline when mixing essential oils with 25 ml carrier oils for children and adolescents
AGE
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Half their age per drop but do not exceed their age per drop.
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Example: Child 6: 3-6 drops. Calculate as follows: 3 (half the age) to 6 (not exceeding the age) drops essential oil to 25 ml carrier oil.
WEIGHT
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Do no exceed 2 drops per 10 kg (22lbs) and 1 drop per 5 kg (11 lbs). Do not exceed maximum, which is 15 drops.
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Example 1: Child age 12 weight 50 kg (110 lbs): 6-12 drops essential oils as per above calculation. For the weight (50kg (110lbs at 2 drops per 10 kg), the ideal number of drops would be 10 drops.
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Example 2: Youth age 15 weighs 75kg (165lbs) 8-15 drops essential oils as per above calculation. For the weight (75kg at 2 drops per 10 kg and 1 drop er 5 kg), the ideal number of drops would be 15 as per the age, weight and the maximum drops used.
The following tables may serve as a guideline. Note: The table 'Drops per Age' is a separate table to 'Drops per Weight' and they are not intended to correspond with each other, i.e. a child age 2 does not necessarily weight 10 kg (22 lbs) and a child age 3 does not necessarily weight 15 kg (33 lbs) - use these tables independent of each other and refer to either age or weight.
Essential Oil Drops per AGE
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Children age 2 years: |
1-2 drops |
Children age 3 years |
2-3 drops |
Children age 4 years |
2-4 drops |
Children age 5 years: |
3-5 drops |
Children age 6 years: |
3-6 drops |
Children age 7 years: |
4-7 drops |
Children age 8 years: |
4-8 drops |
Children age 9 years: |
5-9 drops |
Children age 10 years: |
5-10 drops |
Children age 11 years |
5-11 drops |
Children age 12 years |
6-12 drops |
Children age 13 years |
6-13 drops |
Children age 14 years |
7-14 drops |
Children age 15 years |
8-15 drops |
Children age 16 years |
8-15 drops |
Children age 17 years |
9-15 drops |
Children age 18 years |
9-15 drops |
Do not exceed maximum, which is 15 drops |
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Essential Oil Drops per WEIGHT |
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| 10 kg - 22 lbs | 2 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 15kg 33 lbs | 3 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 20 kg 44 lbs | 4 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 25 kg 55 lbs | 5 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 30 kg 66 lbs | 6 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 35 kg 77 lbs | 7 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 40 kg 88 lbs | 8 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 45 kg 99 lbs | 9 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 50 kg 110 lbs | 10 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 55 kg 127 lbs | 11 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 60 kg 132 lbs | 12 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 65 kg 143 lbs | 13 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 70 kg 154 lbs | 14 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 75 kg 165 lbs | 15 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 80 kg 176 lbs | 15 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 85 kg 187 lbs | 15 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| 90 kg 198 lbs | 15 drops essential oils per 25 ml of carrier oil. |
| Caution: Do not exceed maximum, which is 15 drops | |
The same rule which applies to adults applies to children: Do not use more than double the amount of essential oils per week.
Examples:
Child age 5: 3-5 drops per 25 ml carrier oil
: per week: 6-10 drops in total
Child age 13: 6-12 drops per 25 ml carrier oil
: per week: 12-24 drops in total
Children's Baths
Children benefit therapeutically from essential oils used in their baths, but it is necessary to exercise caution when using essential oils. It is important not to exceed the recommended drops and to dilute skin irritant oils in 5 ml carrier oil (or bath gel) before adding to the bath. Non-irritant oils need to be well dispersed before children immerse. The following table is a guideline:
| Drops for a Bath - Essential Oil drops per age |
Formulate in accordance with drops per age |
| Children age 1-2 years: 1 drop Children age 3-4 years: Children age 5-6 years: Children age 7-12 years: 4 drops Children age 13 -16 years: Youth age 17 - 18 years: 6 drops Youth age 18+ years: |
Refreshing: Mandarin and Petitgrain
Restless: Lavender Soothing: Lavender and Roman Chamomile or bergamot Cold / flu: Eucalyptus and tea tree Colic: Roman Chamomile and lemon or grapefruit Nausea: Tangerine and Lemon verbena Headache: Lavender |
Important Points to Remember
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Do not treat ill children without them having consulted a qualified medical practitioner, homeopath, chiropractor or any other registered professional.
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Do not apply essential oils around baby / toddler's face/nose. It is best to apply to bottoms of feet. There is always a possibility that they may rub them in their eyes or get some on their hands and put them in their mouth. Essential oils are powerful but must always be used with caution.
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Do not contradict or discontinue treatment prescribed by above mentioned professional. Apply aromatherapy in conjunction with prescribed treatment or medication.
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Use oils for minor ailments such as cuts, grazes, minor burns, bruises, insect bites or stings. Do not overlook the importance of medical attention for serious or major conditions.
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Never use undiluted essential oils. Exceptions are made with lavender and or minor burns, cuts, stings, etc.
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Never administer oils orally.
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Never apply oils internally.
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Essential oils used in a bath should be diluted in a carrier oil (of bath gel). Never use skin irritant oils undiluted.
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Essential oils used in a bath must not exceed the drops allowed as stipulated in the "essential oil Drops per Age' table.
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Essential oils used in a massage must not exceed the drops allowed as stipulated in the "Essential Oils Drops per Age' table.
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Before using an essential oil, check the safety of the oil and the recommended drops.
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Steam inhalation treatments for children are shorter than for adults. Start with a few seconds, slowly increasing with each treatment by half a minute until 1-2 minutes have been reached.
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Do not leave children unattended with steam inhalations or any other heat treatment.
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Do not leave children unattended with diffusors.
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Do no leave children in a room with doors closed with essential oils in vaporizer.
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Keep undiluted, as well as diluted essential oils out of children's reach.
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Do not use hazardous oils.
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Only use "child-friendly' essential oils.
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Do not allow children to pour essential oils into their baths, or any other treatment variation unless closely supervised, as they may exceed the limit of the drops allowed.
References: Aromatherapy for Natural Health and Beauty by Cecilia Salvesen
Essential Oil Uses for Babies and Children
See the Common and Botanical Name Index for the botanical name of each oil listed below.
Colic: Bergamot, ginger, mandarin, marjoram, Roman chamomile, rosemary, or ylang ylang. Blend: Combine 2 Tbsp. Almond oil with 1 drop Roman chamomile, 1 drop lavender, and 1 drop geranium. Mix and apply to stomach and back. Note: Burping the baby, and keeping the abdomen warm with a warm (not hot) water bottle will often bring relief.
Common Cold: Cedarwood, lemon, Melaleuca ericifolia, rosemary, rose, sandalwood, or thyme. Blend: Combine 2 Tbsp. vegetable oil with 2 drops melaleuca (Tea Tree), 1 drop lemon, and 1 drop rose otto. Massage a little of the blend on neck and chest.
Constipation: Ginger, mandarin, orange, or rosemary. Dilute one of the oils and massage on stomach and feet.
Cradle Cap: Blend: Combine 2 Tbsp. almond oil with 1 drop lemon and 1 drop geranium or with 1 drop cedarwood and 1 sandalwood. Mix and apply a small amount on head.
Croup: Marjoram, ravensara, rosewood, sandalwood, or thyme. Dilute for massage or diffuse. Bundle baby or child up and take outside to breathe cold air.
Crying: Cypress, frankincense, geranium, lavender, Roman chamomile, rose otto, or ylang ylang. Dilute for massage or diffuse.
Diaper Rash: Lavender (dilute and apply). Blend: Combine 1 drop Roman chamomile and 1 drop lavender with vegetable oil and apply.
Digestion (sluggish): Lemon or orange. Dilute and massage feet and stomach.
Dry Skin: Rosewood or sandalwood. Dilute and apply.
Earache: Lavender, melaleuca (Tea Tree), Melaleuca ericifolia, Roman chamomile, or thyme (sweet). Put a diluted drop of oil on a cotton ball and place on the surface of the ear; rub a little bit of diluted oil behind the ear. Blend: Combine 2 Tbsp. vegetable oil with 2 drops lavender, 1 drop Roman chamomile, and 1 drop melaleuca (Tea Tree). Put a drop on a cotton ball and put on surface of the ear, rub behind the ear and on the ear Vita Flex feet points.
Fever: Lavender. Dilute in vegetable oil and massage baby or child (back of neck, feet, behind ear, etc.). Peppermint (diffuse only).
Flu: Cypress, lemon, Melaleuca ericifolia. Dilute 1 drop of each in 1 Tbsp. bath gel base for a bath or diffuse.
Hiccoughs: Mandarin. Diffuse
Jaundice: Geranium, lemon, lime, mandarin, or rosemary. Dilute and apply on the liver area and on the liver Vita Flex feet points.
Premature: Since premature babies have very thin and sensitive skin, it is best to avoid the use of essential oils.
Rashes: Lavender, Roman chamomile, rose otto, or sandalwood. Dilute and apply.
Teeth Grinding: Lavender (rub on feet).
Tonsillitis: Ginger, lavender, lemon, or melaleuca (Tea Tree), Roman chamomile. Dilute and apply.
Thrush: Geranium, lavender, lemon, Tea Tree, rosewood, or thyme. Dilute and apply. Blend: 2 Tbsp. garlic oil, 8 drops lavender, Tea Tree, 1 ml. Vitamin E oil. Apply to nipples just before nursing, or with a clean finger into baby's mouth
Source: www.antiagingchoices.com
Let Them Be!
Let them be, and you will be set free. You cannot control the experience of anyOne, so it's safe to let go of your personality's self righteous ideas about how their life should unfold.
Let Them Be
The hardest part is letting go. Releasing control over our children gives them the power to be just who they are, and the energy you save for yourself keeps you closer to who you are.
This combination of consciousness will undoubtedly cause you to Love each other more.
Cultivating Kids Creativity
Newborn babies come into this world with no knowledge of right, wrong, good or bad. They are just like us, but they have not yet been conditioned to our way of life. Since we believe it is our job as parents to shape and mold them into model human beings, we get started on it shortly after birth.
To begin, we put them on a feeding schedule and subject them to painful medical procedures. By the time babies cut their first tooth, they have already learned that their needs don't matter all that much. As they mature, we continue to mold our children’s behavior through coaxing, discipline, rewards – whatever gets them to fall in line with “normal” society.
Beginning at the tender age of four or five, we force our kids to attend school whether they want to or not. Young children are made to sit at desks for hours on end, and if they upset their teacher, we punish them. If they are resistant to the punishment, we put them on drugs. We manage their behavior and exert control over our children until they graduate High School, and some of us even retain our control during college years.
Most adults live in a reality with possibilities that are familiar yet stale. But a child's reality is unlimited in creative possibilities, and thus they are unlimited in their ability to create anything they want.
The younger the child, the purer their creative energy. But as our children grow older, their memories become clouded with expectations, judgment, shame, etc. Instead of seeing them as equals, the most well meaning of us view our kids as being in need of some fixing.
They rebel at many different ages, and we punish them into submission. If we succeed, the child becomes an adult who knows that life is difficult, and that we win by conforming and competing against one another.
Through our own conditioning, we have led ourselves to believe that without discipline our kids would turn out all "wrong". Discipline is essential for a fulfilling life, but can be developed organically as Self Discipline. Instilling discipline from the outside inward creates a form of self discipline that is based on feelings of fear, guilt, shame and self doubt.
When anyone behaves a certain way for fear of punishment, they develop a habit of being led toward what they believe to be "right" actions through uncomfortable and painful emotion. The emotions of fear, shame, and guilt are prevalent in our society today, and they are the driving force behind a majority of our thoughts and actions.
As adults, it is our overwhelment with these emotions that causes conflict in our minds which translates to conflict in our lives and conflict in our world. Emotional instability is also the source of all addictive behavior. Conversely, adults with an emotional slate as pure as a child’s are naturally peaceful, loving and productive as they joyfully pursue their life's purpose.
Children are strongly connected to their truth, and they act in their own best interest. If we allow them to cultivate this, and couple it with worldly knowledge being gained through their own curiosity, they will make the determination that their best interest is always created when they honor their higher Self. When the higher Self is honored, all things benefit from our presence in the world.
It is the children who have the most potential to improve our reality in ways we do not understand, yet we do our best to stop them from creating anything that has not already been created. If we could simply see past the limitations we have created through our self image, and accept these young creators as our saviors, we will be supporting and encouraging the creation of an amazing new world.
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