Self Defense

If someone talks to you in a disrespectful or unloving manner, gratitude is there even in the midst of thoughts that want to defend yourself. 
There is no self to defend, plus defensiveness is a maker painful illusions. 
Go with gratitude, and pain gets healed.
Blessings upon your magical sight. I love you! 

Aligned with Love

Suffering mind moves to nit pick people, disparage them and see them being corrected or punished for their words and actions. 
But whatever is done in the mind is done to the sense of self only…indeed the body burden associated with dualistic thoughts can be noticed immediately if there’s willingness to notice. 
If willingness is present, just notice, don’t use the mind to try and stop dualistic thoughts because mind is not capable of changing its own thinking. 
Just notice, don’t try and use the mind to forgive because forgiveness comes not from imagination but from revelation of truth.
Just notice the body burden as it is and the associated thoughts as they are, until it’s recognized that the noticing itself comes from a position of deep relaxation.
Once this recognition occurs, dualistic thinking loses its luster, and thoughts are spontaneously aligned with love. 
Thank you! I love you!

Trying to Love

Trying to love is really another form of resistance to love. 
It’s a built-in mechanism of mind that aims at keeping hidden the fact that there is nothing but love, and that which lacks love is only an illusion. 
Love is never really lacking. It only gets covered up by ideas about someone who is capable of being other than love. 
Through surrender to feeling whatever denies love, love presents itself….
Whereas trying to love denies feeling and results in experience of the kind of love that’s temporary and bound to become its opposite. 
The one who is aware of trying is also the source of love. 
Thank you for all the love! I love you!

Trying to Love

Trying to love anyone is a futile endeavor. 
Its willingness to feel unloving/unloved that reveals what love is. 
Through recognition of what love is, everybody is already loved…and loving kindness is the natural result.

Embracing People’s Opinions

Not wanting to be affected by other people’s opinions, the confused mind withholds love from anybody who seems to threaten its self identity. 
It relates from a desire to have its cravings fulfilled and leaves broken-hearted people in its tracks. 
But being affected by other people’s opinions is only a problem when there is confusion about who/what is being affected, and for what purpose….
While the mind identifies itself as an individual amongst other individuals, naturally it experiences resistance to being affected negatively by the opinions of people and craving for being affected positively by the opinions of people. 
But the purpose of being affected by opinions at all is to help the mind recognize that the individual person is really an extension of awareness witnessing an individual perspective through the currents of consciousness; and that ALL apparently individual persons are extensions of the same witnessing principal. 
Unwillingness to feel the effects of being a separate individual is what makes the mind withhold loving kindness from other people…which is really an attempt to make its individual self comfortable within it’s own separate illusion. 
But through focusing attention on that which is aware of other people’s opinions, the mind is turned toward embracing the opinions of other people and appreciating them for the the gifts of awareness that they bring. 
Naturally, the mind begins to express more loving kindness toward people, and if attentions remains focused on awareness, it becomes impossible to make illusions of suffering for anybody. 
You are all that is! Don’t be fooled by the illusion that people are either for or against you. 
No matter what appears on the surface, every interaction is between perspectives in consciousness, offering one another gifts of awareness.
Thank you for sharing your gifts! I love you!

Joy is Meant to be Shared

The kind of joy that seems to disrespect other people’s feelings is still Joy…in confusion Joy is used to make illusions instead of being shared. 
There are no other people. What’s being disrespected is Joy itself…it’s been called selfishness, and it immediately burdens the mind. 
Joy is synonymous with Loving Kindness. If it’s withheld from even a single person, place or thing in the perception…what might seem like joyful experience is really an illusion that leads to its opposite. 
There is nothing to get out of this world, as everything in it is passing away. But Joy/Loving Kindness is the gift that wipes away illusions and that endures forever. 
Thank you! I love you! 

Love is Freedom

Love is freedom. The kind of love that seeks to keep anybody from doing as they please is really fear disguised as love.

Fear turns what could be joyful relating into a game of suspicion, jealousy and disappointment. This is the common way that people have been taught to “love”.

But when everybody is allowed to act natural, people naturally gravitate toward other people who bring out the most joy in one another.

This is the way my husband and I relate, and while we have been sexually exclusive with each other for over two decades, neither of us demands faithfulness or acts suspicious toward the other.

It’s mutual enjoyment of our romantically exclusive partnership that has kept us from pursuing other options, not an illusion of obligation or self control.

In fact, because I love my man, I want him to have his romantic desires fulfilled. And if his desire is not for me exclusively, no problem…I would likely become disinterested in romantic connection with him, but no love would be lost.

Likewise, when it comes to kids, parents, friends, etc, there’s awareness that disappointment is impossible, and so there are no restrictions on my love….or their freedom.

Can you imagine what a world full of lovers might feel like?

Thank you! I love you!!

Devoted Men

It’s obvious what makes women attract experiences of men who treat them like objects. 

Anyone who pretends to want bodies to be other than they are, do other than they do, or have other than they have cannot help but attract potential partners that reflect the same.
Whether the pretense is about her kids, other people’s kids, the media, people in her community, business and political figures, her lover, animals and insects, her neighbors, and even herself…its within the power of each woman to recognize what is really keeping her from being seen, appreciated and adored as she is. 
By viewing the world through the lens of an individual subject, every body is made into an object, and one is bound to attract others who reflect their world views. 
If this subtle play of consciousness isn’t recognized for what it is, the men who show up to play their part are blamed for being confused assholes, and the cycle repeats itself again and again until the lesson is learned. 
As lessons are learned, relationships naturally evolve or dissolve …thus making way for new paradigms that have been become possible through learning. Learning is not’s an automatic process that occurs when the attention isn’t fixed on self concepts. 
Bless the men who’s role it is to treat women like objects…they are the greatest lessons. And appreciate the men who’s role it is to serve women with loving devotion …they are the reward for lessons learned.