No one in particular incarnates. Only consciousness/God incarnates as people, places and things.
What witnesses incarnations is all that is. When it's recognized thus, joys and sorrows are seen as having equal value.
Mistakes are judgments about action, behavior or performance...all of which are the sole responsibility of the creative principal...which does not make mistakes.
Nevertheless, the confused mind collects evidence in the illusion that good results come from identifying mistakes and then…
Belief that people can make mistakes results in action that wants for results and denies loving kindness.
I don't go through emotions. Emotions move through me, but I remain unaffected.
What people say and do is not a problem. It's only when it's taken personally that there's a problem.
People with an intention are a target for other people with opposing intentions. Compassion has no intention. Give it up and rest in Compassion.
Seeing resistance itself or circumstances that trigger resistant feeling as too much, not enough, or otherwise wrong is an unconscious effort to maintain what's already known.