It’s wise to seek centering because when we’re centered, the call of our soul can be heard more clearly.
Our minds are so strong already that they tend to run our lives out of habits picked up through many life experiences. The work to be done is in controlling the mind to follow the spirit, and opening our hearts to be receptive to the unconditional Love that is our essence. I recommend a daily practice of Kundalini Yoga to get used to summoning your Being into your daily life.
The true you is the only thing that endures. Family and loved ones can be a source of happiness and emotional love (which always contain their opposites), but only you have the power to create the pure Joy that comes from being the expression of your true Self in this lifetime.
You are the center of the Universe, and everything that you experience is your creation. Create your life Joyful by learning to follow the subtle voice of your soul toward that which glorifies yourself as part of everything else.