There are people who walk this planet whose present purpose is to make suffering in the lives of other people, and especially the ones closest to them.
These people are immeasurably valuable, because they give their relations the experiences they need for their individual evolution and for the evolution of humanity. Once their loved ones get the message, these relationships either evolve or dissolve.
It’s one thing to tell the pain causing individual to take a hike, but that’s not going to matter much if the underlying energy hasn’t shifted. Indeed, when a “bad actor” is dismissed without awareness, it either opens the way for a similar one to enter, or it leads to the bitterness, resentment and feelings of disconnection that come with shutting people out.
The experience of being treated badly presents an opportunity to feel into the raw sensation of receiving that kind of treatment. This brings awareness to the effect your present way of relating has on your overall Wellbeing, which in turn transforms and opens the mind until it can dare to recognize everyone’s inherent worth.
Once such a worthy mindset arises, the mind can naturally release its need for painful relationships. In the meantime, and to expedite and ease this process, be willing to feel your feelings, and to stretch into a different, more empowered response when such an opportunity arises.