Sincerely expressing that which upsets you is always more transformative than pretending you’re feeling fine. But it’s also a projection onto the other of the delusion you picked up in infancy.
Said projection keeps emotional turmoil returning to your experience again and again.
When you’re ready, leave the other as they are and turn your focus inward. Feel the feelings, and just witness as the mind tirelessly tries to tempt you into re-believing in blame and victimhood.
In this way, circumstances and relationships transform on their own – like Magic.