Respect. It’s what parents think they want from their kids.
So, one might ask, “how do I get respect from my kids without demanding it”? But even that is nothing more than an attempt to gain a survival skill in a world built upon made-up constructs. You are so much more powerful than that!
In a sense, it’s true that what you “give” you are always going to “get” back, but to the confused mind takes this to mean You give love, you get love – You give money, you get a product – You give labor, you get a paycheck.
In reality everything is arising from out of the collective consciousness. In this way, you are really only “giving” a vibrational frequency that matches your mental state, and you are really only “getting” the mathematical equivalent of every mental state that has already been broadcast from your point of view.
Notice that in expecting a child to show respect, the adult is already coming from a point of view that’s lacking respect, and within this blind expectation there’s not even a question as to why respect appears to be missing in the first place.
Because this expectation largely goes unquestioned, children are being used to act out the “adult” idea of respect,while the feeling of disrespect grows in intensity for everyone involved. Until there’s a demand for recognition of what’s really going on, this unconscious charade will continue to make discomfort and suffering for the human experience.
So, if disrespect or fear of disrespect is showing up in your experience, remember that it has nothing to do with another person. Of course, the mind will say that you need to get respect or you could be ruined, but what the mind isn’t seeing is that the outer world is only a reflection of what’s inside, and that it’s way easier to let the projection lighten up than to wrestle with the reflection.
Who are you to feel disrespected? Question every thought about respect and what that means to who you think you are. If you’re willing to experience whatever is arising, you will be made aware of what believing unreality feels like. And once that happens, the idea of needing respect will be irrelevant for you.