Unrequited love is wasted energy, and it’s not love at all…it’s affection, and misplaced affection at that. Moreover, it has nothing to do with connection between two people…instead it’s one person having an affair with their own mind.
This creates an unnatural dynamic, as men who are attracted to women are also knowingly or unknowingly looking for a women who will show them how to love. But instead, they are largely finding women who carry a lack of love for themselves, and they show their lack of love by giving affection where there is no reciprocal value.
What these women seem to miss is that the kind of man who’s capable of going deep with them is totally turned off by this type of behavior. Instead, it’s men who are more interested in using women to fulfill their selfish desires that this wasting of affection can attract.
Over the past 3 decades, I’ve observed women, including myself early on, focusing their affections on men in this unfruitful way. But once I discovered the purpose and value of my affection, that dynamic was through for me, and very quickly it seemed that I had limitless options of men who were lining up to devote themselves to loving me.
If you are a woman who finds herself wasting affection, know that this can change. First and foremost, you must be get in touch with your intuition so that you can sense the energetic shifts between two people as they occur in real time.
Every relationship is a fluid movement, like a dance, and if you make it first priority to tune in with how your energy is affected by your partner, and you’re willing move in ways that express the value of your love without fear of losing the relationship….you will be gifted with the ability to detect when your affection can deepen your connections, and when your affection is more likely to lead to feeling disrespected, unappreciated and resentful, to name a few.
If you tune in, you’ll notice that in this dance, fear of commitment or just interest in something else arises in the man for whatever reason…it doesn’t matter. When you feel his attention withdrawing, it’s not time to shower him with affection, it’s time for you to enjoy your dance with yourself.
Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying to disrespect him by focusing your romantic affections on someone else. I’m saying to back off and give him some breathing room while still honoring your connection.
It’s possible in your observations that you discover your romantic connection with this man is not resonating with you. Great! Now you can communicate what’s not working for you…and who knows…sometimes that same man can show you that he’s ready and willing to learn how to be the man who’s worthy of your attention and affection.
Whether any particular partnership dissolves or transforms is not the point. The point is that you are now teaching the mind what is deserving of your affection and what is not.
Once the shift occurs from men teaching you what you deserve to you teaching men what you will accept, you will see that there is limitless potential to how much your man can reflect the Love that you are.