Manipulation in the material sense is what ‘we’ (as in creatures of mind) are here to do, and while it seems as if we have free will in this regard, we are really being played in a manner that correlates with the All.
The delusional mind seeks to keep you comfortable within the idea that you can manipulate your thoughts and action in order to create more personal comfort. But the mind makes for a very poor creator of comfort, because while mind can create the temporary illusion of comfort, it inevitably causes your experience to correlate with the All in a manner that appears to defile you.
What’s being invited here is not to try to avoid manipulation, but to observe manipulation as far as the mind’s intent to control personal comfort.
You are invited to recognize that hoping for what you want and repressing what you fear in order to create personal Comfort is the ‘common sense’ way to mask pain and discomfort – which manifests materially as dis-ease in its many forms (accidents, illness, war, etc.)
I know it can be difficult to ‘see’ in this way, but just keep breathing and noticing, my love, and in time it will become abundantly clear.
With much Aloha from the Big Island.