It's not judgmental to notice when someone treats you with disrespect. That's just being honest.
What's judgmental is pretending like you did something to create the disrespectful treatment, that anything should be different, or that anyone is bad, wrong or unworthy.
An experience of disrespectful treatment is really a fun opportunity to allow self respect in whatever way it needs to be expressed - such as stating your boundaries, taking space and/or dissolving the connection.
As you allow more self respect, a sort of vacuum is created that attracts people who are ready, able and willing to recognize and honor your value.
However, if you judge disrespectful treatment, you will also be agreeing to tolerate it, and the more you tolerate disrespectful treatment, the more you will experience being disrespected.
You are getting what the mind has decided that you deserve. Now is the time to observe what's being taken as true, and allow the necessary adjustments to take place.