Experiencing someone in a negative way does not make anyone less spiritual, and it does not necessarily mean they’re holding judgment.
In fact, to deny one’s own experience in favor of spiritual concepts is self judgment, and in that judgment, a lot of self talk happens while Love’s guidance is ignored.
Acknowledgment of experience does not turn into a projection of judgment unless it’s coupled with commentary about the experience.
By commentary, I mean ideas about what someone should or should not do, predictions about what will happen because of it, notions about what your experience says about anyone, etc.
Just the bald-ass experience is all that’s asking to be acknowledged, not any mental images or ideas about the experience. Call ‘em like you see ‘em and let the heart of hearts guide your actions accordingly. Aloha!!