Enlightenment is not something that you become, it’s who you already are beneath layers of confusion. The experience of enlightenment is sustained conscious awareness of Truth that exists before the illusion, irrespective of circumstance within the illusion - which is basically…
Belief and non-belief are opposite polarities in mental delusion. Only when you surrender all concepts can the abundant essence of Life flow through your perspective for the glorification of your world.
You are Love! Be willing to be who you are and prevail.
The more anyone tries to get things and/or people under control, the more 'evidence' they are shown to support the belief that control is necessary.