Kids and Respect – Part 2

Respect. It’s what parents think they want from their kids.

 

So, one might ask, “how do I get respect from my kids without demanding it”? But even that is nothing more than an attempt to gain a survival skill in a world built upon made-up constructs. You are so much more powerful than that!

 

In a sense, it’s true that what you “give” you are always going to “get” back, but to the confused mind takes this to mean You give love, you get love – You give money, you get a product – You give labor, you get a paycheck.

 

In reality everything is arising from out of the collective consciousness. In this way, you are really only “giving” a vibrational frequency that matches your mental state, and you are really only “getting” the mathematical equivalent of every mental state that has already been broadcast from your point of view.

 

Notice that in expecting a child to show respect, the adult is already coming from a point of view that’s lacking respect, and within this blind expectation there’s not even a question as to why respect appears to be missing in the first place.

 

Because this expectation largely goes unquestioned, children are being used to act out the “adult” idea of respect,while the feeling of disrespect grows in intensity for everyone involved. Until there’s a demand for recognition of what’s really going on, this unconscious charade will continue to make discomfort and suffering for the human experience.

 

So, if disrespect or fear of disrespect is showing up in your experience, remember that it has nothing to do with another person. Of course, the mind will say that you need to get respect or you could be ruined, but what the mind isn’t seeing is that the outer world is only a reflection of what’s inside, and that it’s way easier to let the projection lighten up than to wrestle with the reflection.

 

Who are you to feel disrespected? Question every thought about respect and what that means to who you think you are. If you’re willing to experience whatever is arising, you will be made aware of what believing unreality feels like. And once that happens, the idea of needing respect will be irrelevant for you.

Kids and Respect – Part 1

As soon as a child is able to exercise natural free will, they are trained by parents, family members, teachers and even random people to “show” respect–to whomever. On the surface that seems innocent, even just, however peeling away the layers of “respect” will reveal its service to the dis-ease of humanity.

 

Specifically, children are trained to automatically respect their parents, respect their elders, respect their teachers, and even respect their toys. The truth behind this automatic respect building is that it is self-serving.

 

The common adult mind thinks it needs to teach children how to act respectful, and so it teaches children how to display the kind of behavior that makes an adult feel respected. But this has nothing to do with being respectful.

 

True respectfulness is the automatic expression emanated from a person who holds no disrespect; it’s not an act that’s turned on to please other people. Since most adult minds hold disrespect for their self, children are often used to cover that up with an act of respect for the adults.

 

These children are in turn being taught to be adults that pretend to need respect from other people, and this insanity goes on because people are largely unwilling to recognize the ways in which they follow thought that disrespects their own self.

 

They are not willing to see that children, other people and even the self are not capable of reflecting any behavior that’s not projected by their own state of mind. This unwillingness is secured by fear of death, which is what can happen to a separate person in a world where that person is not respected.

 

But such a person does not exist except in thought. You are not that person, or any person for that matter. You are the one who decides whether to give attention to thoughts that disrespect your self or not. So, you’re invited let the keiki (kids) be as they are and look at what’s really going on.