Notice what sensations arise when you think another person is pathetic ...these sensations are the first manifestation of that same potential being strengthened within yourself.
Being a peaceful warrior is not about reflecting back to 'others' that which you have taken personally. It's about disregarding all mental 'reason' to make the 'other' wrong, and instead courageously observing the denied self beliefs that have just been…
Nobody can give you love. Your experience of love coming from 'others' is only a reflection of how much love you are allowing. Appreciation for the part the 'other' plays, no matter how they behave, allows more love to come into your experience.