Truly harmonious relations are cultivated by self acceptance, not self control. In every moment that you are trying to avoid hurting anyOne’s feelings, you are forcing an unnatural expression – which hinders authentic connection and manifests as disharmony in your relations.
The self cannot be made to be selfless. Selflessness aka beingness happens naturally for the one who allows all people (including their mind-created self) to be natural, without judgment or expectation.
Conversely, the one who endeavors to manipulate any person (including their self) creates self importance – a mental construct that serves to promote self ignorance.
Doubt is a blessing. It presents a question, the acceptance of which leads to an answer and a deeper knowing of who ‘I AM’.