While you have no power over anyOne’s perception of your individualized self, you Alone decide whether to give those perceptions creative power in your world. As long as you are defining your self according to other people’s perceptions and expectations, you are living through the same mental conditioning that has formed your self up to this point in time – which may be effectively suppressing your own spirit/heart/higher truth.
When you perceive someOne saying or doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable or disturbing emotion, you are essentially being offered a gift. You may accept said gift by allowing that person complete freedom and space to perceive your self in any way they choose.
Specifically, the discomfort or disturbance you feel is an indication that you believe something that’s misaligned with your spirit/heart/higher truth, and the person who ‘made you feel that way’ has very generously brought those beliefs to light for you. Said misalignment manifests in your experience as emotional dis-ease, your perception of which immediately causes your thought structure to project a vibratory signal for its opposite (the cure).
However, to the extent you are taking thought patterns that compulsively stream through your awareness in response to your perception of people’s opinions to be true, your thought structure continues to move toward dis-ease. Conversely, when you consciously recognize and release compulsive mind stream, your thought structure opens to awareness of what self beliefs are actually holding you back.
Through your willingness to allow the ‘other’ to be as they are, consciousness can penetrate through the illusion of separate self and recognize what gifts of self reflection are being offered. In this way, concepts of self are transcended – which leads to more harmonious relations with the ‘others’ in your world.
Set the ‘other’ free to create any perception they choose, and in turn you will be set free from mental habits that no longer serve your purpose – thus allowing the real You to determine your expression in this life-time.