When dealing with anger, depression, fear, stress or anxiety, it’s important to get ourselves to a good place before saying or doing anything that may evoke regret. Once we can attain a calm mind and deep breath, the words and actions we choose will be much more productive.
The key is to stay present with our thoughts. When we notice any uncomfortable or painful emotion, it benefits us to stop what we are doing, and immediately focus awareness on the breath.
From there, the breathing can be slowed and deepened, bringing mental activity back under conscious control and turning emotion into inspiration. To perform this alchemy, keep the lips together, face relaxed, and breathe deeply and lightly through the nose, all the way to the bottom of the abdomen. Think about the breath filling from your pelvic floor, upward. After the abdomen expands fully, allow the breath to move up the sides of the spine and into the chest. On the exhale, release the breath from the chest first, then down the sides of the spine, and finally release it from the abdomen, contracting the abdominal muscles gently to get the last little breath of air out.
After about three breaths, the mind should be more focused. Now, while continuing this breath, allow the mind to identify any tension in the body and gently release it. This may take one to thirty more breaths. Do this until you feel relieved of mental stress and muscular contraction.
From this new perspective the perceiver is open to information that can be used to make the most out of any circumstance or situation. Remember, EVERYTHING is easier with a calm mind and deep breath.